True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake. The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. (Don Miguel Ruiz)
No one wants others to keep reminding them of the mistakes they made; why then do we constantly remind others of the mistakes they made? I know I'm guilty. I think it's because I'm so afraid that same mistake might happen again by that same person - it's self-protection. To let go, means opening yourself up again and being vulnerable. That is very hard to do. That takes true strength.
I know that all hardships bring lessons. That once you're through them you have become a better person. That even if it seems like everything makes no sense right now, when you look back you'll see the reason behind the chaos. All those things might be true but it doesn't make it easier.
When your world crashes down you can't crumple with it - it's at this time that you build your world back up - better and stronger - so that even if the hits keep coming they bounce right off. I just have to remember to be soft too. The snuggly soft so the things that are meant to stay aren't scared away by the tough exterior. Strong but soft.
